A dream marriage isn’t just a myth, it’s possible, with the appropriate frame of mind, the right tools, work and guidance.
We go back in time when your emotional bank account was full, when you wanted to please each other and learn about each other more than anything. When you adored every quirk and their personality flaw was cute and made you fall in love even more.
Life and mundane reality interferes, destroying positive feelings. To maintain the love you need to work for it. Love does not conquer all, after the first year or so… Is your partner worth fighting for?
Some partnerships struggle during difficult times, with lack of finance, sleepless nights after a new baby, hardships at work or in practical matters, the approach is quite different in those cases to the couples who fall out of love during boring routine life when they stop putting each other as their priority and replace the relationship with other hobbies or friends.
Talking would solve numerous issues, but so often people don’t know how to speak in a positive manner, without hurting each other’s feelings even more. Or holding on to hurt until it bursts out in some very unhealthy ways.
Seeing a neutral stranger can often help out. I have old fashioned beliefs that all partnerships are worth working on, at least as long as there is no obvious abuse. More and more counselors advise people to move on and find someone new at the first sign of issues arising.
I’m also open minded about any other style of relationships to the traditional ones. QLGBT or any form of threesome lovers or polyamory. Have been in all those myself.